Your Habits Follow Your Identity

I have goals, and I know you do too – whether it’s feeling more energized, less stressed, more balanced, or just feeling like yourself again. Working on achieving those goals means doing the work to get there… but there’s an important part a lot of people miss.

It’s not only about what you’re doing – it’s also about who you’re showing up as while you’re doing it.

That’s because your habits will always follow your identity. If you see yourself as someone who “can never stick with it” or is “always starting over,” your actions will keep reinforcing that belief. You’ll hit a bump in the road and fall back into the same old story.

But when you start seeing yourself as someone who prioritizes their well-being, follows through, or knows they’re worth the effort, everything begins to shift.

Your identity is the foundation. It informs your choices, your energy, and your resilience. When you change how you see yourself, the habits begin to align more naturally. That’s when your goals start to feel possible – even inevitable.

Here’s something simple (but powerful) you can try this week: Finish this sentence: “I’m becoming someone who…” Make it personal. Make it real! Here are a few ideas to get you started:

• I’m becoming someone who is fit and healthy and exercises every day.
• I’m becoming someone who doesn’t quit when I have an off-day. 
• I’m becoming someone who eats to feel better — not just to get through the day.

The truth is, the way you talk to yourself matters. The way you see yourself matters even more.

So this week, tune in. Notice the story you’re telling yourself — and ask, “Is this who I want to become?” You have the power to shift that story at any moment. And with that shift, your habits and actions will start to match your new identity… one step at a time.